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Day 3

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Hello lovely and thank you for joining me for day 3 of the Searching for Serenity 7 day video tutorial, the Crash Course to Boosting Your Confidence at Work.

I am so pleased that you are with me; we are nearly half way through the week already!

So, for the rest of this week we will deal with one big task broken down over the course of a couple of days.  You might want to get a notebook for this one as each of the days will build on the ones that have gone before.

What we are doing is essentially a mini-annual review.  These are the things that, when they come up at work, give you sweaty palms and make you wonder how you are going to sit in a meeting room with your boss for a whole hour talking about how you could have done better.  This is a much more positive spin.  It is about looking at where you have been, where you are, where you are going and gathering the information that you need to keep your confidence soaring, even when sometimes (sh)it hits the fan.

The first thing that we are going to do is an exercise that is also very helpful if you are looking for a new job, which is to update your CV.

Now, when was the last time you looked at your CV or your job description versus what you are actually doing.  It was probably at your last annual review, which may have been quite a long time ago.  

This is where we are going to examine what you are doing day-to-day.  I want you to take your CV and start listing our everything that is your responsibility and is in your remit.  This isn't just a three-line paragraph that you put down from the recruiter, this is EVERYTHING you do.

Put it another way - this is your 'this is what I do and this is why I'm awesome' list.

Start listing out your day-to-day responsibilities that you carry out at work, the things that are included in your job description.  Then move on to the tasks that aren't in your job description but that you do anyway because you're better at them than anyone else.  We'll also move on to the more holistic aspects of your job; are you the person who goes out and buys treats for everyone when they are having a tough time?  Are you the person who suggests things to do to relieve tension? Maybe people come to your for help or support or training.

What are the things that you do that no one else does?  Keep listing them out.  Every time you think you are done or that you're stuck, think about the last time you had a tricky situation at work and how you resolved it.  

Maybe you had a client on the phone who was being really difficult and you handled them, or maybe someone else had that difficult client and you stepped in to give them support or to help them move forward.

Maybe it was the last time there was a big drama at work and you were the one organising others or maybe you were the one supporting everyone else to allow them to do the best that they could.

Every one of these things you have listed out is what you do and what you bring to the table.

They are what would be included in your CV and your interview if you went somewhere else.

Then, think broad-brush.  Where do you sit within your organisation?  What do you do to help other people, support other people, and train other people?  What do you bring?

If you have written half a side of A4 then you are being too hard on yourself.  I could probably list twenty things that you do, right now and without knowing your job role, just knowing you.  I now that, if you are here, you are empathetic, heartfelt, you want to do a good job and impact other people.  You probably are taking on a lot of emotional support roles, helping and supporting other people, whether you are a manager or supporting your own manager.  Helping others do more, facilitating other people.

Keep going with this exercise until you have every little thing that you ever do at work.  Then, review the list.  

Keep it safe for tomorrow's exercise, but just for a moment, just for today, sit back and reflect on everything you do every day, every week, every month, that no one else can do or no one else can do as well as you.  

As you reflect, remember that there is a reason that you are doing what you are doing and a reason that you are on the path that you are on.

This might not be the career that you wanted, but that doesn't mean that you're not doing an amazing job or that you don't have skills and talents that are being developed.

I want you to keep this list safe for tomorrow's exercise.  This might take you 15 minutes, it might take you longer if you are doing a lot of work at your job, but keep the list safe for tomorrow and bask in the glory of everything you do and remind yourself that no one does it the way that you do.

The reason we are breaking down is because this is a large task and, rather than give you several hours' work when you're already exhausted and overwhelmed, we will make it really simple.

That is all it is for today, keep reminding yourself of just how much you do, and remember to take care of yourself and keep dealing with your negative self talk and counter it every time you come across it.

If you want more help and support you can always reach out to me at hello@searchignforserenity.co.uk I am always ready and willing to help.

You can also join us in the private Searching for Serenity Facebook group, meeting other professional, heartfelt women who are also struggling with these issues.  They will give you support if you ask for it, they are an amazing bunch of women and I am so proud to call them part of my group!

Have an amazing day; I will be back in your inbox tomorrow.  Bye for now!