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Thank you for joining me for the Searching for Serenity 7-day video tutorial Eliminating Exhaustion.
For those of you who don't know me already my name is Leah and I am the founder of Searching for Serenity, which is a mentoring practice for professional heartfelt women who are struggling with issues of exhaustion, overwhelm and burnout and want to build careers and lives that they love.
This video tutorial is brought to you in a seven-day format. Each day you will receive a video with a video, audio and transcript of those videos and audios for you to read, review and listen to on your way in to work. The videos are between 5 and 10 minutes in length and they are all delivering you skills that you can implement immediately.
Every day the skills will build on each other and we will get you to a position that you are eliminating exhaustion form your career!
Now, these are all skills that nobody teaches you. You learn your times tables and how to tie your shoes, you learn at degree and even postgraduate level but nobody tells you how to manage your exhaustion and your overwhelm when you've got numerous competing contracts, deadlines, people needing this now from you; how are you supposed to do all that and still keep going and still be enthusiastic for your career at the end of it? Well that's what we're teaching you here today.
These are skills that you could learn through trial and error through a decade of your career or you can take my trial and error through my decade of career in law and learn today!
So, that’s' the format, let's got on with the training!
Exhaustion is a really tricky subject to deal with. I will caveat this (being the typical lawyer that I am) you need to go to your doctor if you are suffering from issues of exhaustion; please get the blood test, please make sure that there are no underlying issues. Once you have gotten that out the way then we can crack on with everything else we have to do.
What this course focuses on is not necessarily so much the physical causes of exhaustion but the emotional, overwhelm that comes with the day to day grind of doing your job.
For day one what we are going to do is focus on self-care. Now I know that you've probably been through my 7 day challenge Your Best Week, you've probably read my Burnout First Aid book, you've probably spoken to me about this in the Searching for Serenity Facebook group but I WILL keep saying it: self care is key. You cannot pour from an empty cup, there is only so much that you can do for other people and I know that you want to make a difference to the lives of other people but there is only so much you can do for other people if you are exhausted yourself.
The first thing that we therefore need to do is to look at your self-care and to build in those practices that will keep you strong.
I know you; I know what you've been doing. You've been working too hard for too long, you've been putting everybody else first and you are your last priority, no matter what.
Try and argue with me, try and tell me that it isn't true. You can try (but this is recorded on video so that isn't going to work!) but that's why you're here and why you're coming to me in particular because I've been through that, I've come out the other side and I've actually built a professional career not just dealing with Searching for Serenity but in law having learned these lessons.
I am living embodiment and proof that these lessons work so please pay attention!
So, self care. I will talk about it now; I will talk about it in the other 7-day video tutorial courses because it is key. You need to build in time to look after yourself.
Burnout and exhaustion arise when you are putting in more effort than you are getting reward, for too long. What we are doing is not just reducing the amount of effort, but making it easier.
The first thing to do is check the email and click the link to download your scheduler. If you have been with me for a while than you may have seen this before. But I am asking you to map what you do over the space of 24 hours. In that 24 hours we are going to carve out 15-20 minutes; it's not difficult, you can find it, trust me you can.
You can run a bath at the end of the day; hell you're multi tasking, we all need to wash!
But you are going to set down 15-20 minutes each day for the next 7 days and these are sacrosanct. I don't care what comes up, what your other half says (and whether he's loaded the dishwasher) or whether someone is calling on you, for 20 minutes you are going to relax and you are going to do something that makes you feel good about you.
You are also going to list out what it is you are going to do for those 15-20 minutes, put them in your diary and look forward to them each day!
When was the last time that you took 20 minutes for yourself, absolutely?
How long have you had that book on your besides table that you haven't read, haven't got past chapter three because every time you try to read it you fall asleep with a book on your face?
How often have you said that you would make time with friends and at the last moment you've cancelled because you’ve had a tough day at work and you're exhausted?
20 minutes, for 7 days. You can do this.
Book them in for the rest of the week; what you're going to do, how long for, where you're going to be and anything else you need to support you.
If you spend 20 minutes for 7 days in a bubble bath then that's fine, so long as it helps you to build your reserves!
That's it for today.
There is going to be more and there is going to be things that are slightly more tough so please take the easy ones whilst you can get them, but that's all we're going to do for today. Get out your diary; put it in your phone, this is your time for you.
Make it sacrosanct and if you need more help or you need more accountability or even if you need me to read someone the riot act because they are trying to interrupt your 20 minutes, come over to the Searching for Serenity group. It’s full of women who are walking the same path as you and are there to both give and receive support and guidance as needed, plus I am always there for your help and guidance, as you need it.
Do come over and get involved and I will be back in your inbox tomorrow. I want to hear how you are getting on booking 20 minutes a day to look after yourself (if you've got photographs, even better!). I would love to hear from you.
I will be back in your inbox tomorrow with a slightly more tough video but we will build from here.
In the meantime, have an amazing time, and take care of yourself.
Bye for now!