Recently I've been thinking about the coping methods we all employ when life gets busy, difficult, or when we struggle to cope.
How often do you open an email and mentally note to come back to it later? How often do you follow through?
It's easy to think that we will wait until life slows down, for the better moment, for the perfect moment. But life just doesn't work that way.
There is no such thing as the perfect moment and if you wait for it, you'll be waiting until you're dead.
What often appears to be waiting for the perfect moment is more often a wolf in sheep's clothing; fear of failure, self-sabotage or keeping yourself small and safe in place of the bigger life you know you were meant to live, but struggle to reach.
It's difficult to get momentum and take action, particularly when you have so much to do every day and struggle with what you already have on your to do list.
But if you're doing everything the way you've always done it and it's just not working....well isn't it time for a change?
So, how to be brave and seize the imperfect moment.
Consider for a moment what the real risks are. If you're about to go skydiving you'll check your parachute but for most of us the risks are really very small indeed. Being embarrassed by getting the wrong answer, trying something that may not work; these are all risks to nothing but our ego.
Decide what it is that you want. Are you happy to stay in your current situation, whether that's a job that leaves you unfulfilled, being paid less than you know you are worth or struggling constantly with a balance between career and life and feeling guilty about both. If you're happy exactly where you are, then great! But if you're reading this, then the likelihood is that you're not happy. Remember, nothing changes until you do and if you keep doing what you've always been doing, you'll get what you've always gotten.
Finally, remember a time when you were really brave. Maybe you jumped for a job that seemed terrifying, but became a turning point in your career. Perhaps you flirted outrageously with that cute guy you now call your husband, or booked a holiday to a foreign country completely alone. That adventurous spirit, that fearless female is still within you. She's just squashed under a to do list instead of a live-list.
If you're still worried about waiting for the perfect moment, consider for a moment whether this is it. People and things walk in and out of your life for a reason. Perhaps this is your moment to seize, right now.
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